You're Doing Great!

March 1, 2020
A comedian muses on life, love, and simple pleasures. Host of a daily SiriusXM show as well as a podcast, Papa gives ample evidence of his "ability to live on the happy side of the street" in a collection of funny, warmhearted essays whose overarching messages are, "we should be grateful for what we have" and "shouldn't take life all that seriously." The author is thankful for many things, including coffee (at the first sip each morning, he writes, "my entire being knows the day is about to improve"); baking bread, which he does with unabashed pleasure; a weekly date night, which he claims keeps a marriage happy; gathering for dinner with his wife and two daughters ("I just want to look up and see them and have them see me and realize we're family. That's why we eat together"); and indulging his desires at 7-Eleven stores, "crammed with everything you could ever need or want, just waiting for your arrival like delicious outposts on the modern-day prairie." Papa encourages everyone to find someone to love, which, with 7 billion people in the world, should not be difficult. Love, he writes, is "finding someone whose flaws you can put up with." Certainly, a few things annoy the author: loud, rude people, for example, who invade places that should be quiet and soothing, like breakfast rooms of motels. But if a few essays display irritation, most are generously encouraging. "Our minds are our worst critics," he writes. "We do it to ourselves." To keep thinking positively, Papa advises, "you need to avoid anything that can bring you down." The most delightful essay is a nostalgic paean, reminiscent of E.B. White, to the funky, close-knit Manhattan neighborhood where he and his wife first lived: "we loved it, we loved each other, and even if we wanted to leave, our roots were growing deeper." Entertaining essays from a genial guide.

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March 30, 2020
Comedian Papa (Your Dad Stole My Rake) offers a delightful set of upbeat and candidly humorous essays on the challenges of modern living. Society is “inundated, twenty-four hours a day, with news, images, and ideas of all kinds... and it’s messing with our heads,” he writes. His antidote: be grateful, relax, and stop trying to be perfect (“No one is happy all the time.... Whenever I see couples posting about how in love they are, I know they’re in trouble”). Papa, a Gen Xer who had a common-sense New Jersey Italian-American upbringing, is unapologetic about his passion for eating: “There’s too much happiness and history to put an end to it... who cares if you’re a little fat?” In “Let’s Go Back,” a touching departure from his straight-up humor, Papa writes to a deceased college friend about their shabby house share (“It’s hard when you outgrow something you love. It’s even harder when you lose the people that came with it”). In other essays, Papa recalls a river tubing accident (“It wasn’t awesome. Breaking a couple ribs on a rock at the bottom of a waterfall is stupid”), as well as the joys of living in Manhattan’s Chelsea neighborhood in the 1990s. This collection is a clever respite for readers looking for lighthearted escape from their daily lives.